Jane was one of the ladies present, who is totally against marriage. According to her, marriage leads to sadness, insecurities and lies. I have never met someone who is extremely against this institution. I believe it is every ladies dream to walk down the aisle at some point in their lives.
I was actually agreeing to some of the things she was saying, well, to some extent. I concurred with the fact that marriage is uncertain. Indeed, one can never be certain whether his or her marriage will be successful after the vows, rather we are left to hope and pray for the best. We can never know wholly the intentions of the other party. Yes, your husband or wife may vow to always be by your side in good or bad times but the question is: is it really true, will he or she stick by your side when things take the worst turn? One thing for sure is that you have to be in a particular situation for you to know if your ‘better half’ meant what he or she vowed.
I called my prospective husband in the middle of the conversation with the girls to tell him I was worried about our future. I had filled him in on the conversation I was having with them and this were his exact words, “Sasa unaniambia nini? Kwani nawaoa?” (What is that you are telling me? I’m I going to marry them?). My boyfriend always has a way of making me look at things differently. He is one person I am extremely grateful for and truly cherish. It is with him that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I long for the day he will ask for my hand in marriage.
Once I got off the phone, the girls were very pissed that I actually called Mr. yet it was a girls’ talk. I didn’t get why they were fussing about the whole thing. All in all, I tried defending the institution of marriage but with little success. Jane wants to have a baby very soon minus a husband. She says the current boyfriend will be the baby daddy and that is it. Miss independent doesn’t want to be married because of the obligations that come with it. She doesn’t understand why ladies sign up to be house wives, cleaners and cooks to the so called husbands.
Currently, Jane is in a relationship and she really loves her guy. The thing is, she wants him to be the baby daddy and that is it. No marriage in the picture because she thinks that will lead into misery. On the contrary, I strongly believe that Jane will end up meeting with that one guy who will make her change her perspective on marriage. Marriage is a beautiful union, it just needs a man and woman who love and trust each other and are ready to be there for each other forever and ever.
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